My wife and I take a walk every evening around our condominium complex.
It’s a nice garden, lot of green, pretty flowers. This particular day was pleasant
with a hint of rain in the air. Children gamboled about, other couples passed
us on their evening stroll, a light breeze lent solace to a brisk walk. In
these rambles around the complex we usually chat about things that interest us.
My day, her day, our plans, interesting books, movies . . . The usual chitchat
married couples engage in. My wife is a psychologist. And when discussing some
interesting theories in her field, she made a very interesting statement - The
brain is built for safety not for happiness.
Prima facie, it felt very counterintuitive. I mean what price the
pursuit of happiness? Isn’t it one of those inalienable rights enshrined in
that Will Smith movie? Oh sorry, I meant in the declaration of independence of
the only free country of this world? What are we all doing if not seeking
happiness?
Turns out mainstream media might put this “pursuit of happiness” on a
pedestal, but our biology most certainly does not. Turns out my wife was right.
The brain has evolved to prioritize safety over happiness. From an evolutionary
standpoint, nature has no interest in our long-term happiness or
self-actualization or any of those lofty goals; its sole priority is survival
and reproduction. Our ancestors survived by assuming every rustle in the bushes
was a predator, not a harmless draft of wind. A caveperson who was constantly
content and relaxed was eaten; the anxious, hyper-vigilant one survived to pass
on his or her genes. This was primarily due to a simple fact – the cost of being wrong was very
low in the case of a false positive (Type I error) and very high in the case of
a false negative (Type II error).
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Scenario
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Error
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Outcome
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Evolutionary Cost
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Caveperson assumes a rustle in the bushes is a tiger when
it’s just the wind.
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Type I error (False Positive)
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Alive, but slightly embarrassed.
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Low
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Caveperson assumes a rustle in the bushes is just the
wind when its actually a hungry tiger
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Type II
error (False negative)
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Dead
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Terminally
high
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What’s more, not only is the brain geared towards safety and towards
always thinking of the worst-case scenario, but it’s also built in such a way
that happiness is fleeting and fear is much more permanent.
- A negativity bias ensured survival.
- Temporary nature of dopamine spikes meant we
remained motivated to keep moving, hunting and surviving. If we were satisfied
forever, we would be the neanderthal equivalent of couch potatoes. Cave
potatoes.
- Immediate hijack of the amygdala by our
threat-detection system meant we were always alert. If serotonin was
long-lasting and cortisol/adrenaline could not over-ride it quickly, our
reaction time would be high.
Essentially, happiness is something humans have to actively cultivate
because our default biological hardware is optimized strictly for risk
mitigation. In other words, maintaining mental well-being requires deliberate
effort. It means actively working against millions of years of evolutionary
programming. Jeez, that sounds like a lot of work just to fight off depression.
That in itself; ironically, is a depressing thought.
But it doesn’t end there. Extending this logic further, it’s easier to
be a cynic than an optimist. It’s easier to mistrust than trust. Here we came
to the crux of our discussion. Safety is one thing, but active cynicism/pessimism
being our default state? Really? Turns out, science says a resounding
"yes." If you look under the hood, neuroscientists have a name for
this design flaw: the Negativity Bias. Research shows that our brains react
more intensely to negative stimuli than positive ones. In fact, a famous study
by psychologist John Cacioppo revealed that the brain’s electrical activity
spikes far more drastically when we look at a picture of a dead cat compared to
a slice of pizza or a Corvette. We are literally hardwired to obsess over the
threat. Even our social interactions are rigged. Take Error Management Theory,
a framework popularized by evolutionary psychologists Martie Haselton and David
Buss. They found that human cognition is designed to make safe, systematic
errors to avoid costly catastrophes. For instance, their research into
"cross-sex mind reading" revealed that women possess an evolved
"commitment skepticism bias”. Which means they naturally underestimate a
partner’s genuine commitment. Why? Because historically, trusting a liar was
far more dangerous than doubting an honest person. Conversely, men
over-estimated women’s sexual interest. At first glance this might seem counter
intuitive. Women mistrust men but men are running around hoping for a best-case
scenario of mating? Not exactly. When men systematically overestimate a woman's
friendliness as sexual interest, they aren't practicing genuine, sunny
optimism. In the brutal economy of natural selection, a blow to the ego or a
moment of social awkwardness is just burnt toast. But missing a mating
opportunity? That is a maximum-cost, catastrophic risk, the evolutionary equivalent
of a house fire. The hyper-confident overestimation isn't hope; it's an
aggressive risk-mitigation strategy designed to avoid the ultimate worst-case
scenario: genetic extinction. Whether the brain is utilizing a woman’s default
mistrust to protect against abandonment, or a man’s overestimation to protect
against a missed opportunity, the operational logic remains completely
unchanged. The human mind does not care about objective reality. It is a finely
tuned paranoia machine, forever optimized to commit the cheapest possible
mistake.
We no longer dodge predators on the savanna, but our brains treat
modern social and professional stresses with the exact same life-or-death
intensity. Take some very common modern-day scenarios.
- The performance review: You receive an
annual review with nine glowing compliments and one piece of constructive
criticism. Your brain will completely ignore the nine positives and obsess over
the single negative for days. The amygdala flags that one critique as a threat
to your status and tribal belonging (your job security).
- Emails with an ambiguous
tone: When a manager sends a brief message like, "Come by my
office when you have a minute," the default assumption is almost
never, "They want to praise my work." The brain
automatically fills the ambiguity with a worst-case scenario ("Am
I getting fired?") to prepare you for a threat.
There’s a ton of research backed examples of this behavior – from loss
aversion in behavioral economics to market routs in investment theory to the
colloquial phrase – “takes years to build trust, a second to destroy it”.
So to sum up, our brain is wired for safety over happiness, what happiness
we experience is fleeting, mistrust is our default state. Quite a gloom-and-doom
scenario so far. Doesn’t end there though. Cut to the digital age. Take this
scenario and amplify it a thousand-fold. That’s what happens when biology meets
capitalism. Turns out media and news organizations discovered this long ago. They’ve
been taking advantage of this biological hardwiring for some time now. Ever
wonder why you see so much bad news on the internet or TV? Why true crime
dramas have more TRPs than positive news of community spirit? Since we respond
to it instinctively, news channels sell it to us even more aggressively. It’s a
vicious cycle. Capitalism simply looked at our biological vulnerability and
built a monetization model around it. A headline about a stable economy or a
community garden is just "burnt toast" to your subconscious; it gets
ignored. But a headline about an economic crash, a rising crime rate, or an
impending crisis? That’s a potential "house fire." Your amygdala
locks on, your thumb clicks, and the media company cashes an ad check. So let’s
sum this up –
[Human Brain scans for danger]
↓ (Clicks on bad news)
[Media Platforms track engagement]
↓ (Realize fear/outrage =
revenue)
[Algorithms amplify sensationalism]
↓ (Floods feed with more
threats)
[Human Brain perceives world as more dangerous]
We started off in a garden with gamboling children and a light breeze.
That escalated quickly. But we’re not done. This same doom loop plays out in
social media as well as political campaigns. We click more on bad news even in
our social media feeds, and we listen more to politicians prophesizing doom.
A landmark 2017 study published in the Proceedings of the National
Academy of Sciences (PNAS), led by William Brady and Jay Van Bavel at New York
University (NYU) attempted to study this relationship and check whether “the
people around us online affect the information flow to us and whether there’s a
negativity bias to the spread of information”. This was a fascinating study. To test this, they analyzed a
massive dataset of over 560,000 tweets covering highly polarizing social and
political topics (in the US): gun control, climate change, and same-sex
marriage. Using established linguistic dictionaries, they categorized the words
in these tweets into three distinct buckets: Exclusively Moral - Words dealing
with values or duties (e.g., duty, honor, standard), Exclusively Emotional - Words dealing with
general feelings (e.g., fear, safe, alert), and Moral-Emotional - Words where
morality and intense emotion fuse together (e.g., greed, hate, shame, outrage,
corrupt, sin). When they tracked how these tweets were shared, they found a
striking mathematical pattern. The presence of a single moral-emotional word
increased the likelihood of that tweet being retweeted by 20%. If you added two
moral-emotional words, the virality compounded. Conversely, tweets that used
dry, purely moral arguments or generic emotional words did not see a consistent
boost in sharing.
Let’s think this through. News organizations are already
sensationalizing news and churning out more negativity online. To compound
that, politicians are dialing up rhetoric by triggering our threat response.
But to make matters worse, we do this as well! We’re churning out negative
content online too! And we’re subconsciously geared to sharing it more as well!
Basically, social media platforms took the media's business model and put it on
steroids. This reminds me of a scene from the movie Nightcrawler starring Jake
Gyllenhaal and Rene Russo. Lou Bloom (Jake Gyllenhaal) is trying to sell a bit
of news to the late night segment of a local news channel where Nina (Rene
Russo) is a manager. She is trying to explain what the news channel represents
and what type of news bytes/videos they want to purchase. She sums it up by
saying, “Think of our news cast as a screaming woman, running down the street
with her throat cut”. That basically captures the essence of not just local
news but news/media organizations worldwide. The movie itself is a brutal,
severe indictment of the modern media landscape, but it captures an ugly,
immutable truth: news and media organizations worldwide are not in the business
of objective journalism. They are running a commercial enterprise optimized for
a consumer base that is biologically trapped by its own survival instincts.
Like I said, doom and gloom. Is there any hope? Are we doomed to this
vicious cycle? Is there nothing we can do? Again, we turn to evolutionary
science. On one end of the spectrum we have our amygdala which triggers our
threat response and forces our adrenal glands to churn out adrenaline/cortisol.
It hijacks our brain at a moment’s notice and turns us into paranoid fearmongers;
The George Costanza of our brain. On the other end of our spectrum is blind
sunny optimism, the evolutionary cost of whose mistakes is fatal. The Sue Heck
of our brain. The bridge between both is our neocortex. The latest development
in our evolution as humans. The most advanced arsenal in our toolkit of reason.
The ambulance waiting for that woman running down the street with her throat
cut.
We can dive deeper into brain biology and study what the neocortex made
of, its six different layers, inhibitory and excitatory neurons, the nuts and
bolts. Or we can understand its history and function which is more relevant for
us. The neocortex is the most recent addition to our brain structure. It is
what makes us uniquely human. The neocortex increased in size in response to
pressures for greater cooperation and competition in our early ancestors. The
neocortex accounts for almost 80% of our total brain mass. Amongst mammals that
is the highest. Chimpanzees come close with around 73%. For the vast majority
of mammals, ranging from rodents to small carnivores, the neocortex averages
roughly 30% to 40% of total brain volume. With this increase in size, there was
greater voluntary inhibitory control of social behaviors resulting in increased
social harmony. Sounds like just what we need!
Well hold on, not so fast though! Using our neocortex is a slow
process. There’s a reason that the amygdala “hijacks” our brain. It wants to
secure our safety first. The neocortex steps in later to analyze data, dissect
facts, determine the truth and take a more nuanced, balanced approach. Think of
our neocortex as our fact checker. But a fact checker is a dry, dispassionate
job; and more importantly, a boring one. It really takes effort to bring in a
fact checker when your amygdala is crying fire!
This brings us to the nub of my whole tirade. Is there anything we can
do? Or are we stuck in this biologically imposed but capitalistically monetized
doom loop of negativity and paranoia? If bad news gets created more and shared
more, isn’t the answer as simple as shouting the good news even more? Amplify
the positive 10x times to counter the effect of the negative already being
shared? Perhaps not. I think it’ll be a losing battle. If we’re wired for
worry, just blasting good news will always be an uphill battle. We’ll be battling
biology with noise. What if the answer is to battle our animal instincts with
our human ones? If our animal “hindbrains” are switching on our flight/fight
modes too often, maybe we need to train our neocortex to ease in and switch on
our rational thought processes and critical thinking skills? It’s not that easy
to be honest. The problem we face today is unique. Not only are media and news
organizations selling us bad news but social media is reducing our attention
spans. Think back a bit and you’ll see this playing out across the last decade
or so. We had movies, which turned into episodes, which turned into YouTube videos
which became reels and YouTube shorts. In 2014, the average length of a music
video was 3 minutes 50 seconds. Today, while the average (mathematical mean) is
just over 3 minutes; the new norm for hit singles is 2 minutes 30 seconds. This
is going down YoY. Streaming platforms like Spotify and Apple Music count a
"play" and trigger a royalty payout once a listener hits the
30-second mark, regardless of whether the song is two minutes or five minutes
long. Mathematically, if an album features twelve 2-minute tracks instead of
six 4-minute tracks, it generates twice the potential revenue in the exact same
amount of listening time. It’s all about the money honey! I can do a whole other
piece on dopamine hits, addiction science, how social media apps are like slot
machines in a casino, and reduced attention spans; but suffice it to say that our
attention spans are going down. The math is clear. Why am I bringing up attention
spans here? If you’re still reading this, I obviously still have your attention.
I bring this up to highlight the fact that if our neocortex has to step in and
fact check our animal hindbrains, if our uniquely human traits are to kick in
and calm down our paranoid amygdala, our attention spans have to go up. We need
the ability for focused, deep thought. We need the ability to parse information,
use our critical thinking and analyze nuanced scenarios rather than classify
everything as just good or bad. After all, that’s exactly what makes us human! If
news and social media organizations are using monetization algorithms, we must
break that cycle of addiction to reclaim our humanity.
Across the world, governments are realizing the harm that social media
organizations are doing and acting on it. Australia (who pioneered this) has
enacted a law to ban social media for kids under 16. The UK has recently announced
a similar set of legislation which will come into effect by 2027. Ditto Indonesia
and Malaysia. These are the first steps to reverse the devastating effect social
media has on children’s attention spans. But we can do our bit today as well. It’s
not just about social media remember? We began our dive into this rabbit hole with
our tendency to be attracted to bad news. To increase our attention spans and
ability for critical thinking, we need to step away from short-form content. Read
books. Switch off the reels. Cease the infinite scrolls. Read articles instead
of tweets. The process is going to be slow. The results are not going to be immediate.
Maybe the benefits will be observed not by us but by the generations that come
after us. De-addiction has a playbook. First step is to create friction; which
means making it tough to access the substance you are addicted to. In this
case, it’s that spike of dopamine or that morbid curiosity about bad news. Maybe
the starting point is as simple as charging our phones in a room that’s
different from where we sleep. Next step in the playbook is envisioning a life
without addiction. If it’s smoking, think of a break without a cigarette. A
party without alcohol. Prepare the mind for the options. In this case, maybe
the starting point is embracing the boredom. Sit without a screen or notification.
The de-addiction playbook goes on to environmental redesign. In our case it
might be inhibit access to news, social media. In the latter phases, Maybe we
need to create content ourselves that’s long-form. Spread the habit. Over time,
I think our attention spans will go up, our ability to parse information will increase,
our capacity for accepting the inherent duality of a situation will be enhanced
and our polarized opinions will be more nuanced. Over time, our reactions to sensationalized
news will be distaste instead of morbid curiosity.
A long road ahead of us. But I think it’s worth it. The risk is lesser
revenue for social media organizations, the ecosystem of content creators who churn
out short-form content, and over time news organizations who sensationalize news
and media. The advantage is that we might reclaim our attention and give it back
to the things that are important - actual social connections, healthy debate,
nuanced perspectives, diverse opinions, and real progress.